After a While You Learn
By: Veronica A. Shoffstall
After a while you learn the difference, the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love does not mean leaning and company does not always mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts, and presents aren’t promises.
And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman and not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’ ground is too uncertain for plans, and the future has a way of falling into the void.
After a while you learn that the sun burns if you take it too long. You learn that no matter how much you care, some people just do not care… And you accept that no matter how good a person is, they will hurt you once in a while and you need to forgive them for that.
You learn that talking can relieve emotional pain. You discover that it takes years to build trust and only seconds to destroy it, and that you can do things in an instant which you will regret for the rest of your life.
You learn that true friendships continue to grow even over long distances. And what matters is not what you have in life, but who you are in life. And that good friends are the family we choose. You learn that we do not have to change friends if we understand that friends change, you realize that your best friend and you can do anything, or nothing, and have good times together.
You find out that the people you most care about in life are taken away from you too quickly, so we must always leave loved ones with loving words, as it may be the last time we see them.
You learn that the circumstances and the environment have influence on us, but we are responsible for ourselves. You begin to learn that you should not compare yourself with others, but with the best you yourself can be. You discover that it takes a long time to become the person you want to be and that time is short.
You learn that it doesn’t matter where you go, but where you’re going, but if you don’t know where you’re going, anywhere will do. You learn that either you control your actions or they will control you, and that being flexible does not mean being weak or having no personality, because no matter how delicate and fragile the situation is, there are always two sides.
You learn that heroes are people who did what was necessary by facing the consequences. You learn that patience requires a lot of practice. You discover that sometimes the person you expect to kick you when you fall is one of the few that will help you get up.
You learn that maturity has more to do with the kinds of experience you had and what you learned from them than with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated. You learn that there are more of your parents in you than you thought. You learn that you should never tell a child that dreams are silly, some things are so humiliating and it would be a tragedy if they believed it.
You learn that when you are angry you have the right to be angry, but that does not give you the right to be cruel. You discover that just because someone does not love you the way you want t does not mean that they do not love you, because there are people who love us, but just do not know how to show it.
You learn that it is not always enough to be forgiven by someone, sometimes you have to learn to forgive your own self. You learn that with the same harshness you judge, you will be convicted at some point.
You learn that no matter how many pieces your heart has been broken into, the world does not stop for you to fix it. You learn that time is not something that can turn back. So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure… you really are strong and can go a much longer away after thinking there was no more to go. And that life really has value and that you have value in life! And that our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we could win, if the fear of trying wasn’t there.